I don't know, maybe this is a girl thing ... but how is that even as a thirty-something woman, I am still trapped under the power of my Mother?
How is it that, even though I am a grown woman with children of my own, that as soon as my Mother so much as raises her voice at me, I feel like I am 17 again? (Bleh. And who wants to be 17 again? haha)You would think that by this stage in my life, I would have enough confidence, or self-respect, or something that would allow me to stand up to her ... but I just can't. I'm just frozen in time.
And it does not seem matter whether she is right or wrong in her accusations, I just stand there, shrink to about 3 inches tall, and take her criticism.
It's crazy. I am an adult. With my own views, and values and yet I simply cannot stand up for myself.
All I can do right now, is hope that I do not treat my children this way when they are adults.
Note to self ... grown children have thoughts and feelings too!
Okay ... off to hug my children and kiss them goodnight!
Cheers!
Bridget
Sorry your mother treats you in a negative way. But you will always be your mother's child. My mother does not yell at me, but I think there is a sense in which I will always be her little boy even though I am in my mid 40s!
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