Friday, March 23, 2018

How Do You Face Forks in the Road?

Yes, I know I haven’t been here in a while. I do most of my writing over at HerLoyalSons.com (in case maybe you were living under a rock), but periodically I try and swing by the old stomping grounds and say hello. If you know me, or follow me on social media, you’ve probably gathered that I’m a pretty positive person. I’m definitely a glass half full person, and as a friend once told me years ago, I’m the “eternally happy” person. Now that doesn’t mean I don’t have my down days, because of course I do. But for the most part, I do a pretty good job at seeing the silver lining in things.

The other thing I work very hard on, in the age of social media, is to refrain from partaking in the comparison game. It is so easy to get caught up in comparing yourself with the accomplishments of others. Oh look, so and so’s kids are so much more mature than my kids are, or look at her, she’s moving so much more quickly in her career/professional development. I am well aware that we all move through life at different paces, but I too sometime fall prey to the comparison trap.

As of late, I’ve been doing a lot of self-reflection. With one kid in college, and one on the way to college this fall, my household is about to change pretty drastically. As an almost empty nester, I’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about what the next phase of my life is going to look like, and I am kind of at a loss. Part of the problem is that I am a planner, and with so much change in my life, it is very difficult to plan. Not to mention the fact that I am not super great at dealing with the unknown, and there seems to be a lot of that as well. And let’s be real, I’m still trying to figure out what I want to do when I grow up.

I’m taking a week off from work next week to recharge my batteries, and spend a little one-on-one time with my daughter. I’m hoping to take a deeper look inward and try to get some clarity as to where I am headed … or maybe where I want to be heading during the rest of 2018 and beyond. I’ve got a stack of books I’m taking with me, including “Play Big” by Dr. Jen Welter, and “Present over Perfect” by Shauna Niequist. And I am very excited about the thought of spending a little time with my toes in the sand, which is always recharging to me.

So, how is your 2018 looking so far? We’re almost one whole quarter in. Are you progressing as planned? Or have you encountered the proverbial “fork in the road?” I hope your year is off to a fantastic start. Got any advice about dealing with change and uncertainty? Please send it my way … I’d love to hear it!

Cheers!