Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Tidy Boxes

How do you find closure when there is none?

If you read my blog, you pretty much already know that I am a glass half full kinda girl. But every so often, I do encounter somewhat of a hiccup. And yesterday, I was having such a day. My question to my Twitter followers was ... "How do you find closure when there is none?"

I know that life is not always a bunch of tidy little boxes, that you can open when you need them, and close when you are done with them, and neatly return them to the shelf. Some time boxes remain partially open, and we can't figure out how to close them and return them to their shelf, even though we so desperately want to.

These sorts of situations can be thrust upon us by many reasons ... an untimely death, a break-up, a disagreement, a loss of a job ... the list is endless.

The answers that I received from my Twitter "Tweeps" were very insightful, and though I still have no neat and tidy way to reach the closure that I need, I still find great comfort in knowing that I am not alone on this journey.

Here are some of their helpful words of wisdom.

... I don't now the answer to that one. Working on this one: What do you do when you find it but don't want to accept it?

... Acceptance of situation regardless of whether justification exists. and it is not always fun.

... The truth will find you in the shade of the sun.

... There is no closure. Ever. There is acceptance to an extent.

... You make it (closure) happen.

... You make it happen yourself? In my experience closure doesn't happen naturally, more a frame of mind and decision to let go.

I may have not achieved the closure that I am looking for, but I do know that I am well on my journey, and I know that I will eventually get there. Even if it is not easy. Even if I don't want it. I know it is out there for me to take.

I hope you are having fun on your journey, because that's what it's all about, isn't it?

Be sure to stop and smell the flowers on this first day of spring, and enjoy whatever the journey brings your way!



  1. I needed to read this today! I could really use those neat little boxes.

  2. Haha ... you and me both, Jessica!

  3. Hmm, finding closure when there is none. This has happened a few times in my life. Too many loose ends are still out there. Sadly, I have learned to somehow "mask" what hurts me and just live with it. I know I shouldn't handle it like that though.

    If you have any tidy boxes left, may I toss some of my loose ends in one, please? Sigh..I wish it were that simple. Sometimes closure is a luxury, not a right. I hope you truly find the closure(s) you are looking for. And I hope I do as well.

    Thanks for writing this article.